Design for the moments when meaning continues after language ends – The AI developer page click here
The Night My Father Died.
Back in the year 2000, I hurried home from the USA to Germany because my father was dying. I got there, to the hospital, in the afternoon…and ..later…I was with him that night. The rest of the family had gone home. We didn’t know how close death was.
I had been taught by Tom Brown the Tracker that when being with the dying, once can actually accompany them…until the white light. He, Tom, said, you cannot go there with them . So I was sitting with my dad…and Eyes closed, I was just with him, his being. He could of course no longer talk.
Eventually the white light was approaching…and I heard from him (internal ears or whatever that sense is) …”I didn’t say goodbye to (name here)” , his 3 year old grandson. so I told him (also silently) : You can go there now and say goodbye…and he went…it was a small flash of light.
He died a short time later. The next day I found out that at that time, that child had sat up in his bed crying almost inconsolably…he wanted to go to see his grandpa, to say good bye. My sister said she then knew, her father had died.
Whether or not the mechanism of non-local relational awareness is scientifically understood, its psychological reality and ethical significance are clear. Any AI system built for trust, continuity, or long-term relational presence must be able to recognize and appropriately respond to this category of human experience. Treating such lived experiences as noise rather than signal results in misalignment at the relational layer—where trust, not accuracy, determines whether collaboration is possible.